Flight Pundit

I have a business trip the next couple days. Posting will be light while I visit LA and San Diego.

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In my post here the other day, I talk about when my grandmother was sick and went through several hip surgeries. She was put into a hospice because after the second hip surgery she gave up. She didn’t want to recover. The pain was too much for her frail body. During this time her mind was always sharp and witty. Raven points out a big problem in what really happens.

And if you have someone you love, residing in a nursing home: BE THERE. OFTEN. That is so important.

I spent many days and nights in the Hospital and Hospice during this time. I got to know the nurses and how they were. Most were distant in conversation because (beside being at work) they saw to much death. They had beds turn over (PEOPLE DIE) every day. They saw how the families were with the people in the rooms. There were several young people that were in terrible accidents and would not recover.

I had a hard time with the Nurses and Doctors at first because they were very distant when they made there decision. I figured out after some time that they could not function if they became to close to the patients. It is not an easy job when you are caring for people that are dieing.

The problem with the death process is that so many Americans that love life and family put there parents, and grandparents in to the hospice and want to be called when the family member has died. This is the bad thing about being in a hospice or nursing home. You see that humanity of people.

While in the hospice, I became friends with a couple of people that were very close to death. They had great stories and opinions that were just going to be lost. This wasn’t the problem of the hospice or the nursing home. This is the problem of the family. The family is responsible maintaining the family values, morals, and goals. This meme world we live in families fail to realize the problems that are caused by the chase for more, bigger, better. (I am include).

So the point is, you have to participate if you want to do the right thing. If you don’t participate you have no right to either judge or condemn. My grandmother is living in an assisted living home now and someone from our family still visits every day. I talk on the phone now that I am living in Phoenix. But we do that several times a week. I can debate with her because we participated. There were many people that didn’t participate and now they complain about the people that were involved. They lost a family member and blame others when in reality they lost way more and much earlier than they realize. They gave up and people died.

Stay involved in your family and be there to help.
Don’t count on someone else to show the love that you fail to show.
Don’t count on the School system to teach your child about right and wrong.
Don’t count on your family to treat you better than you treat them.

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