Ward and June Cleaver Vs. The Feminist Movement
Dec 4th 2005MichaelAnti-America
“A woman needs a man, like a fish needs a bicycle. - Gloria Steinem”
There are many women that still follow this. There are many women that want this to be true. what they do not want to believe is that it goes both ways!
Gloria Steinem, one of most recognizable and influential feminist activists of her generation, once made this statement to emphasize how unnecessary men are for women to achieve fulfillment in their lives. Thirty years ago, at the early stages of the modern feminist movement, most Americans probably considered this sentiment to be quite radical. However, the idea that men are somehow “biological necessities but social accidents” (as Margaret Mead once said) has become both socially acceptable and even politically correct.(emphasis mine)
How’s it working these days? I am all for womens right, equality, successful women are all over the place. Professional success comes at a price.
Over the past 30 years, women have made remarkable progress in the areas of society that had been dominated by men for centuries. The women’s movement was responsible for much of this advancement, and it was feminists who first pointed out that traditional gender roles were oppressive and demeaning to both men and women. Interestingly, only half of feminism’s message has made a meaningful impression on our collective consciousness. Women are now viewed as being capable of success in the workplace. Men, however, are not yet seen as being capable of providing competent, attentive child care - at least not in the eyes of many family court judges.
Family roles assumed by both men and women have been changing for decades in accordance with the feminist ideals. Current Census Bureau statistics indicate that 68 percent of U.S. mothers with children under the age of eighteen work outside the home. The “typical” postwar nuclear family is almost extinct. Ward and June Cleaver live on only in television reruns.
In most homes today, mothers and fathers share child-care duties and the daily labors necessary to operate a family (cooking, cleaning, shopping, feeding and bathing the kids, helping with homework, and so forth.)
Feminists have successfully dismantled the construct of marriage and family that existed half a century ago. However, as they have pushed for women to explore opportunities beyond the socially accepted norm, they have been unwilling to let men do the same. Feminists wanted to help get women out of the kitchen, but they didn’t want to let men in, so to speak. Women for the most part are reluctant to give up their traditional roles as primary care-givers for their children to fathers.
So what is this about? Is this a bad thing? It is good that women can also be successful in the business world. they should have the choice.
Society’s lack of respect for fatherhood, perpetuated and the inaccurate assumption that fathers are not truly interested in parenting combine to perpetuate a comfortable rationalization that fathers and children don’t need each other as much as mothers and children need each other. Accept that false premise andgender bias, although illegal and unfair, doesn’t seem all that harmful. Many fathers find separation from their children to be a tortuous, devastating experience
Equality?
The answer is that feminists were never just seeking gender equality, they were seeking gender superiority
there it is. out in the open!
This is the same form of injustice feminists have fought so hard to correct for women. Men are now on the other side of the same coin that the feministshave flipped over in the last 30 years. To tell a father he is biologically incapable of being a good parent, is like telling a woman she is naturally incapable of being a good doctor.
Many of the ladies I have dated in the last couple years have had this mindset. But the thing that so many people forget is that choice has consequences. Most of them are still single too. The new ladies I meet now days have a clock ticking and want tohave kids on their terms. Not realizing that is it a family and not a business. There are two people with input into the household. Quit watching your biological clock wind down and think.
Hat Tip: Hard Right
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9 Responses to “Ward and June Cleaver Vs. The Feminist Movement”
Ranten N. Raven on 04 Dec 2005 at Sun 04 December 2005 19:49:55 #
Mike,
Sad, so sad.
If they all seem to have same attitude, consider where it is that you are meeting the women you are dating. My mother-in-law had a bad run for a while–nothing but drunks. Where was she meeting men? Bars. Who are you going to meet in a bar? Drunks! Maybe you’re having the same problem.
Now, were I looking for a woman, where would I go? Churches. Maybe that’s just me, but the kind of lady I’d want would probably be there. Church ladies not your type? Think elsewhere…where would the kind of woman you’d want to spend your life with hang out? Where are those who aren’t infected with the femminist virus? THAT is where you need to be.
Michael on 04 Dec 2005 at Sun 04 December 2005 20:30:11 #
RNR,
I stay out of Bars when on the hunt, When I was a wee private in the Corps my Pastor told me that I could find nice girls in church no matter what city I was in. I did, I was a bad seed then.
I’m not really looking for assistance in finding a great lady for me, but just comiting on the fact that the feminist screwed up so many women.
FbL on 04 Dec 2005 at Sun 04 December 2005 20:31:45 #
Raven took a lot of the words right out of my mouth. Very, very sad.
*Not realizing that is it a family and not a business. There are two people with input into the household.*
So true. I’m always amazed by these kinds of women who seem to be so self-centered and so blind about themselves and others. But maybe it’s because they’ve been told all their lives that they can “throw off the shackles of patriarchy,” that it’s about what *they* want and what *they* need.
But of course, relationships ultimately aren’t about competition or domination. So sad.
And yes, choices always mean trade-offs. No wrong answers, but not all answers are possible all the time. And it seems to me that some trade-offs are *so* worth it…
Fuzzilicious Thinking on 05 Dec 2005 at Mon 05 December 2005 05:47:28 #
Men, Women, Fish and Bicycles
Very interesting reading on the topic of Feminism’s impact on men’s role as fathers.
AirborneVet on 05 Dec 2005 at Mon 05 December 2005 14:30:16 #
You know, my clock is “ticking” so to speak. I’m in my early thirties and have not yet had children. I want to, but nature takes time.
The best thing though is I know one of us, either myself or my husband, will stay at home and be the full time parent a child needs once we have a child. It might be me or it might be him. Either way works for me.
competitor on 05 Dec 2005 at Mon 05 December 2005 20:15:40 #
Feminist movement, equality, clocks ticking……….please!!! I am a successful business woman who earns more then most men I know, I studied hard, observed, learned and grew from many “hard knocks†but do I think the “feminist movement†did this for me……………….. NO!! I did this for me.
Life’s challenges present opportunities, there are some women who have been abused by the males in the lives, others who do not get paid equal pay as their male counterparts. Is it fair or right, NO NO! but there are inequities in life and in business. Turning around your life; learning from your experiences or injustices by using positive, confident methods has demonstrated in my own life to be much more effective then any feminist movement.
I am fiercely competitive, (as Michael can personally attest too, and truly loves about me) but I can tell you that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I cannot truly compete against a male in many arenas (nor would I try) (ok, Michael, I do try with you LOL) I believe each gender has their own unique characteristics, value adds and ideas that they bring to a relationship. I am more for living in gender “compatibility†we need to provide balance, respect each other for our unique talents; whether that be the male is the better to raise the children, or the female is a better business person!
The feminist movement is something our mothers generations and their mothers generations fought for to allow us to have “legal “ rights……..that was then, this is now…….that fight has been fought and won but only if you embrace your own life and LIVE it……… Women that STILL use that whole feminist movement crutch have been listening to that clock ticking way to loud and long………….. GET ON WITH YOUR LIVES………grasp it with passion and show yourself what you can do; you might be surprised, I’ll bet the males in your life would be!!
Michael on 05 Dec 2005 at Mon 05 December 2005 21:28:56 #
yea yea yea, Denver always wins over Arizona, If we had a basketball team we would win on the court too.
The feminist don’t want to compete, they want to change the playing field while keeping parts they like in place…it doesn’t work that way. If you change one aspect of life you will change everything in the future.
This is not a bad thing, but each change has consequences, and that is what the feminist ignore.
I love women, strong, right, smart, with boobs.
I am a simple guy.
FbL on 05 Dec 2005 at Mon 05 December 2005 21:34:55 #
*I believe each gender has their own unique characteristics, value adds and ideas that they bring to a relationship. I am more for living in gender compatibility†we need to provide balance, respect each other for our unique talents;*
Amen.
Raven on 06 Dec 2005 at Tue 06 December 2005 21:13:29 #
Well…I am glad I had my kids when I was young (and semi stupid)…it was tough and I grew up real FAST, but I wouldn’t do it any other way. While other women are debating whether they should start their families, I’m all done. I’m young enough to enjoy my kids who are mostly grown up; we have just about the same interests and hobbies; I will be around when they have kids and probably when they become grandparents themselves. This has nothing to do with the feminist movement, but I can say without a doubt, being a Mom is the absolute best, most important, most meaningful thing I have done. The rewards far outweight anything any career or job can offer.
The career will forget you in about two weeks; your kids never will.